Socially, I'm awkward.
This means I don't understand people's behaviors sometimes - they are profoundly mysterious to me. It's probably the reason I have spent so much of my adult life reading and studying human behavior with my left brain.
I understand the world of ideas and concepts much better.
Emotions are irrational, by definition - although they make their own sense.
I can take relationships very seriously - this makes me a bit of a dork. I don't like blowing people off (anymore). I used to be the biggest flake! - avoiding social interactions if I was depressed.
Now I pay attention to the process and content of conversations. Now I want closure in quotidian interactions. It's not a rule-based system - so it's not about being rigid. It's about being loving to self and others: What is the most loving way to turn down a first, second or third date? What is the most respectful way to address an employee regarding complaints received about their work?
Now that I'm balancing Love, Work & Play (the definition of good mental health), I am focusing energy (previously spent entirely on work) on my relationships. Only, because I'm kinda new at it, it comes off as a bit formal - like the courtesies usually only extended in professional networking. That's okay. Niceties in any relationship aren't so bad.
Everyone describes dating as a game - for both men and women. But our reality is socially constructed. It is a game only if we all agree that it is. What if we disagree? What if we are committed to honesty, transparency and full disclosure in all our communications - even if it doesn't appear - initially and superficially - to be to our advantage? In the long run, the deep trust and mutual understanding engendered from all this open communication may in fact prove to be more satisfying than any short-term gains of saying less to come off as cool:
"I really wanna see you this Saturday but ....(insert details that make you seem less cool/attractive)" vs. "I'm busy."
See, I told you Ima dork. I have to admit, I like it.