|I go to bed thinking about the Lit Review . . .|
|and wake up thinking about the Lit Review . . .|
"Another esoteric aspect of developing resiliency is referred to as 'building heart' or developing an 'indomitable fighting spirit.' 'Heart' creates a goal to live for and helps develop the conviction of one’s right to survive.From: Carl C. Bell, M.D., "Cultivating Resiliency in Youth" in the Journal of Adolescent Health.
The concept is a simple one. By encouraging individuals to 'go the extra mile,' a person can practice calling up emotional reserves until they trust that they have a stockpile of conviction and resiliency.
Building 'heart' in individuals is a preventive public health strategy designed to inoculate against the potentially negative effects of stress and trauma. 'Heart' can be built in sports or other spiritual endeavors."
". . . The relation between parenting practices and child behavior may be stronger in later childhood because of the cumulative and reciprocal influences between the parents and child over time...the association between the quality of parenting and externalizing behaviors was stronger for older children and adolescents compared with toddlers and preschoolers . . . Rothbaum and Weisz's analysis emphasizes the importance of parent-child interactions throughout childhood (p. 262)."
"A lively debate has taken place over conceptual issues, centering on whether resilience is a state or trait, whether successful coping in the face of adversity is domain specific, and what the psychic costs are for at-risk children who manage to grow into competent, confident, and caring adults."
"...One can begin to discern a common core of individual dispositions and sources of support that contribute to resilience in individual development. These protective buffers appear to transcend ethnic, social class, and geographic boundaries. They also appear to make a more profound impact on the life course of children who grow up in adversity than do specific risk factors or stressful life events."
"The 'vulnerable, but invincible' 10-year-olds in the Kaui Longitudinal Study were neither unusually talented nor intellectually gifted. They did, however, possess well-developed problem solving and communication skills that they put to good use. Their teachers noted that they were not only sociable but also remarkably independent. They were able to control their impulses and concentrate on their schoolwork, even if they grew up in homes marred by chronic discord, parental alcoholism, or psychosis. Parental and self-reports indicated that these resilient children displayed a healthy androgyny in their interests and activities and engaged in hobbies that were not narrowly sex-typed. Such activities gave them solace in adversity and provided them with a sense of mastery and pride. This was especially true for the resilient children of parents with alcoholism."Ahh, food of the gods. Thank you, Emmy, and God bless you for your incredible scholarship. Now go and tell someone about resilience.
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
“Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?”
“‘My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer,’ the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. ‘Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.’”
“Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.”
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
“There was a language in the world that everyone understood, a language the boy had used throughout the time that he was trying to improve things at the shop. It was the language of enthusiasm, of things accomplished with love and purpose, and as part of a search for something believed in and desired.”
“What you still need to know is this: before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one “dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.”
"Research on language difference also found that people in a culture where direct communication style is emphasized are more likely to adopt a confrontational style in conflict. In contrast, people in cultures where an indirect communication style is emphasized tend to be more silent and avoid saying no in conflict situations in order to maintain a harmonious relationship."This has personal, professional and organizational implications! How do I raise my daughter? Speak up, use your voice, challenge discrimination and social injustice? Or "go along to get along" lest you become an outsider of the in-group that prefers indirect communication styles? I feel like I worked my way out of the old world ideas about a woman's place and voice. Yet, in some circles, old world ideas predominate. I love harmony and balance, but not at the risk of stifling my voice or your voice or her voice.