Monday, January 4, 2010

Notice, without judging

Reevah calls it the scientific approach, that is, looking objectively at your feelings. That in some ways your feelings are beyond your control - arising normally and naturally from our nature and experiences. Yet we feel ashamed or guilty about them and this causes us anxiety, so we try to cope using defense mechanisms. But what if we just noticed, without judging? It may not be thee feeling that concerns us but our feelings about thee feeling.

Noticing, without judging is also a precept of mindful awareness or Buddhist psychology. Thich Nhat Hanh talks about how we all have all the seeds (like jealousy, love, hatred, compassion, etc.) The real question is which will we allow to grow? So if we all agree that we all have all the feelings and that they are truly normal and natural, rather than judging the feelings that are deemed "socially unacceptable," what if we noticed them, without judging? What would happen then?

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