"Other high-risk children had grown into competent, confident, and caring adults, but felt a persistent need to detach themselves from parents and siblings whose domestic and emotional problems threatened to engulf them.
This was especially true for the adult offspring of alcoholic parents, some of whom had been physically and emotionally abused when they were young.
The balancing act between forming new attachments to loved ones of their choice and the loosening of old family ties that evoked painful memories exacted a toll in their lives.
The price they paid varied from stress-related health problems to a certain aloofness in their interpersonal relationships."
Emmy E. Werner
Chapter 7: What can we learn about resilience from large-scale longitudinal studies?