Now I'm 44 and the protagonist in my very own tele-novela (sans the TV audience unless facebook counts) replete with melodramatic villains.
We really do act this way. Well, not all of us and not all the time.
Growing up in mind, body and spirit means that we see life as it really is and not as we wish it were - eyes wide open and not in denial.
We all have a dark side (the baby part, the id) - villainous and melodramatic with murderous impulses.
But we don't all act on our dark impulses.
We also have a mature side (the adult part, the ego) and a good side (the parent or God part, the superego).
Even if we identify with those of us that choose to hurt, lie, cheat, steal and kill ("I can see why he or she would do that"), what we mean is we have had the same thoughts and feelings. However, we would not do the same thing.
The baby part wants revenge for the pain - even if the pain is self-inflicted, like envy or jealousy. The parent part tells us to do the right thing, take responsibility for our feelings and actions, think of the consequences.
The adult part then decides what to do based on the impulses of the baby part and the rules/principles of the parent part.
Sometimes the baby part wins, sometimes the parent part wins and it is the adult part in us who decides.