Everyone seems to call dating and relationships a game.
Being an inveterate dork, I was advised to read the urban classic, Pimp by Iceberg Slim. Amazon is shipping it as I write.
In the meantime, I watched the documentary, American Pimp by the Hughes brothers. I took five pages of notes (soo dorky, right?).
One definition of naive is "lacking information or experience." Imma tackle this nonsense with the same rigor and intensity that I bring to everything.
At first blush, a pimp is a classic con artist - a sociopath, a narcissist. And a ho is a classic borderline (personality disorder). Both survivors of trauma, abuse and attachment problems. Ironically, in (non-business) romantic relationships, narcissists and borderlines seem to gravitate to each other too.
I wanna write the book, Not a Pimp, Not a Ho: the How & What of Healthy Relationships. Everybody has got a bit of pimp and a bit of ho in 'em. I wanna learn all I can so as not to be so dorky and naive and then I wanna share the wealth of info - I want it to be a classic best-seller. Not a pimp, not a ho, but wise to the game. Not cynical or bitter, but wiser.
Send me your Pimp/Ho stories, you know you got 'em. Write the coherent narrative (it's healing) and then send it to me. I'll look for the patterns and report back. Taking one for the team.