"Everybody has to emotionally emancipate from parents in order to be an adult. In order to be a leader, you have to be an adult."
--Jolene Swain, director of field education at CSUN, social worker & documentary filmmaker of "No Greater Bond: a mother's influence on manhood. Letting go is loving more." Jolene has been my mentor since 1992.
|Jolene Swain speaks to my macro social work class about leadership and parenting.|
My mentors drop pearls of wisdom. Here are some of Jolene's:
- "It's the healthy person that asks for help."
- "You don't know everything. Why do you need to know everything?"
- "It's easy to follow the group. It's difficult to stand alone."
- "The mentee chooses the mentor."
- "Confrontation doesn't have to be negative. Have your say. Deal with it or it grows."
- "Know what soothes you vs. looking for someone to take care of you."
- "Be able to contain and bind your own anxiety."
- "If you learned it then you can unlearn it and learn something new."
- Talking about her son: "in order for him to be happy, I have to let him go."
- "My ultimate joy is to see my son live his life."